Saturday, 4 February 2017

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Hello!

This year, Time to Change (TTC) have worked in partnership, with I’m NOT Disordered on a exclusive series of projects for Time To Talk Day (TTD). Sadly, this is the final post for that series so I'd just like to say some thank yous to... Seb and the rest of the TTC media team for the partnership, TTC [just, in general], and to all of those who have contributed to the series: Angela Slater, Martin (Marty) Baker, Angharad May, Caroline Wild, Alexandria Readman, and Vicky McNally

                   
                    


Questions completed by Claire Andre, Police Liaison Lead, Northumberland, Tyne &Wear NHS Foundation Trust
Twitter: https://twitter.com/LovelyClaireyA
https://www.ntw.nhs.uk/



Can you tell us about the worst (least helpful, most upsetting, anger-provoking etc) talk you’ve had with another person regarding mental health?


The circumstances are deliberately vague to protect the identity of those involved. 
One conversation sticks with me now, from probably approximately 17years ago. I was a student nurse on placement, quite early in my training. So some may find hard to believe but I was quite quiet and not very confident. I was talking to a family member whose young son was having a first admission, he had recently been diagnosed with schizophrenia. I was talking with the family member as my mentor was busy gathering information for her. 
She turned to me with so much emotion in her voice and asked why, why it had to happen to her son. A question I couldn't answer. I tried to comfort her the best I could and listen. What she said next will always stick with me and I felt so emotional "Why couldn't it be a broken arm, I can explain and understand that to family and neighbours. To be honest I would find it easier to say he was convicted for a serious crime and in prison then tell people he has schizophrenia." My heart broke there and then and I tried my best to reassure and support the person. A conversation very much about stigma that has always stuck with me.




Can you tell us about the greatest (most positive, beneficial, encouraging, supportive etc) talk you’ve had with another person regarding mental health?

I've had many positive, happy and uplifting conversations with people about mental health. From people who I've spent time and listened with at their most ill who have been so grateful when they are recovering, to working with families which was passion of mine. To more recently working with My police colleagues and seeing them go from being hesitant and awkward about speak openly about mental health to being speaking freely about experiences, asking for help and feeling more supported in doing so. I've so many examples in the police but here is one: 
I recall a conversation with one person. I was doing a session with officers and during discussions around looking at how the person must feel what it's like for them and their family and the misconceptions around mental health, there is often a literal penny drop moment you see on many faces. An image I will never tire of seeing. But in the break a person approached me and told me about how she had used services when she was younger and although still had bad days felt stronger now. She spoke about how fantastic it is that this is being discussed openly and encouraging people to speak out about their own mental health. She spoke later in the session about her own experiences. It a nice feeling of knowing you can make a difference talking mental health... 
Also I have to say a recent conversation has left me blown away. A general nurse who works with NEAS recently attended some training I was co facilitating and has since contacted me to say I inspired her to apply for her mental health nurse training. That's just a wow... a conversation about mental health and inspiration.


Finally, list three reasons why you think people should talk about mental health:


1. To listen and support someone who may feel isolated 
2. To break stigma and promote acceptance 
3. To stop people being scared of seeking help they need.